Weddings in Ireland are full of love, family, and tradition. But for many guests, one question always comes up—how much should I give as a gift?
Irish weddings often come with certain unspoken rules. Some guests bring physical presents. Most give money. These days, cash is the most common choice. It’s practical and helps couples cover their big day or honeymoon. But how much is enough?
Irish Wedding Gift Traditions
Traditionally, wedding guests brought home items like kettles, towels, or cutlery. People wanted to help the couple start a new life. Now, things have changed. Many couples already live together and don’t need household items. That’s why cash has become the normal gift.
Irish weddings usually include a sit-down meal, drinks, and music. It’s not a small expense for the couple. Guests often try to give enough to at least cover their share of the cost. That’s the unspoken rule—cover your plate.
Average Gift Amount in Ireland
Most people give between €100 and €200 per person. This range depends on several things. If you’re attending as a couple, the amount usually doubles. So, a couple might give €200 to €400.
Closer family members often give more. Parents, siblings, and lifelong friends might give €250 or more. Workmates or distant relatives usually stay closer to the €100 mark. If you’re only invited to the evening part, the amount is usually lower—maybe €50 or €75.
What Affects How Much You Give?
Several things can change what feels right to give. First, the location matters. A hotel wedding in Dublin or Galway will cost the couple more than a small venue in the countryside. Guests tend to give more at high-end venues.
Next, think about your own costs. Are you travelling far? Staying overnight? These extras matter, especially for younger guests or students. Most couples understand and don’t expect large gifts from everyone.
Also, consider how close you are to the couple. Are they old school friends? A cousin? A co-worker you don’t know well? Your relationship can guide your budget.
Some guests also ask others what they plan to give. It’s a good way to feel more confident, especially if it’s your first Irish wedding.
Old Traditions vs. Modern Habits
Irish weddings used to focus more on practical items. A nice photo frame or cookware set would have been perfect. Now, most couples prefer money. They might even say so on the invite or wedding website.
Some couples still use gift lists or online registries, especially for smaller weddings. But even then, many guests choose to slip cash into a card. It’s easy and always useful.
What Do Couples Really Expect?
Most couples don’t ask for anything directly. But they do hope guests will give something thoughtful. The “cover your plate” idea is common. It means giving enough to cover your food and drink.
That said, no one wants guests to feel pressure. Many people give what they can afford. A heartfelt card with a smaller amount means more than an expensive gift from someone struggling to make ends meet.
Some couples even include “No gifts please” on their invite. Others suggest a charity donation or ask for something simple. Always read the invite carefully.
How to Decide the Right Amount
Start with what you can afford. Don’t feel you must match others. A wedding invite should not bring stress.
Think about your connection to the couple. Think about your travel costs. Think about the type of day it will be. Then choose an amount that feels fair.
Add a kind note to your card. A warm message or a shared memory means more than cash alone. Some guests like to add a small item, such as a framed photo or a bottle of wine. These personal touches show love without breaking the bank.
Non-Cash Gift Ideas
Not everyone likes to give money. That’s fine too. Some prefer to give something more lasting. Here are a few ideas:
- A thoughtful piece of art
- A weekend experience or spa voucher
- A custom item with their names or wedding date
- A group gift from several friends
Even small gifts can feel special if they match the couple’s style. Think about what suits them. Avoid gifts that take up space or might be hard to return.
What Not to Do
Don’t give a gift that feels rushed or careless. Avoid old items from your house or things that seem like last-minute buys.
Don’t feel forced to give more than you can afford. It’s not a competition. Also, don’t give something large or hard to carry unless the couple knows it’s coming.
And never skip the card. A wedding card adds warmth to any gift, big or small.
Final Thoughts
Most Irish wedding guests give €100 to €200 per person. That range feels fair to most couples. It’s not a rule, just a guide.
Think about your budget and your bond with the couple. Add a kind message. And relax. Weddings are about love and celebration—not stress or show.
So write the card, fold the note, and smile. You’re doing just fine.